What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
14.06.2025 00:13
Off the top of my ancient head:
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Is a man over 50 not married no kids a red flag?
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
When was you wife swapping fantasy started?
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
Why do you think it is bad to allow people to self-identify as a different gender?
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling: